I was remembering about a time when Piper was in Kindergarten and First Grade and she was experiencing bullying. Piper didn’t know it was bullying at the time, but she did tell me there was a girl in her class that punches her in the stomach when they are playing. It was hard to figure out for Piper, because at other times they were friends. But from time to time the girl would put her fist into Piper’s stomach and twist it hard. I knew who the girl was and I knew her mother and father just from small talk at school. By my assessments, I wasn’t surprised the girl was doing this.
I took the initial steps of contacting the school with the information, since they didn’t know it was going on. I waited for the parent to contact me, but the next time I saw her, it was small talk as usual. The school may have told her, but kept , who reported it private.
Piper told me it was still going on. I debated on talking with the parent face to face about it. I wasn’t sure where it would go, would she believe me, would it change things?
One day I was picking up Piper from her after school program and all the kids were in the hallway. I decided to take things into my own hands. I grabbed the opportunity to handle this problem mommy stealth style.
The girl was there and I bent down to her level and I said, very quietly yet, sternly, with eyebrows knitted together, “Girl, I need you to stop putting your hands on Piper!” “Do not punch her in the stomach, do not pick her up, and do not lay one more hand on her! Do you understand me?” She looked up at me with wide doe eyes and shook her head yes.
I never had another problem again with her. You may think this was politically incorrect of me to do. But, I followed my instincts and it turned out perfectly. Every now and then, you have to handle things old school and your intuition and instincts usually are right on!
Have you ever had to handle a bullying situation in your own way? What went right, what went wrong?