Single parents aren’t going away. As much as we would like everyone to have a two parent household, sometimes life just doesn’t work out that way. There are approximately over 15 million single parent households according to the 2012 census. So, instead of negatively judging ourselves for our presumed inadequacy, why not vow to create your best life anyway.
Here are the steps I took to ensure that I was happy regardless of my circumstances.
#1 Take Care of Number One-That’s You!
If you aren’t’ at your best how are you supposed to give the best care to your kids and to your job? How do I make sure I’m not sick and depressed? I eat right; I hardly ever eat fast food, or processed food. I choose to cook- it’s also a great way to bond with your children. I take vitamins and herbs that are tailored for my specific needs. I spend about $100.00 on vitamins, every quarter, but, ( I hope I don’t jinx myself), I haven’t been to the doctor for an illness in at least ten years, so it’s worth it to me. I exercise either at the gym or at home. At home, I have a jump rope, ten pound weights and an exercise ball. I also get to watch my favorite shows while doing it. Your health is everything! Be a healthy role model for your kids!
#2 Improve Your Economic Status
Whatever it is that you do every day; do it really well. Improve your current status, by taking classes to get a degree, or to move up in your current position. If studying and school isn’t so much your thing then acquire a skill or cultivate your creativity. As an educator, I have to take classes in order to get more money. I don’t love it, but I do learn more, and therefore increase my revenue. It’s also never too late to change and follow your passion. Don’t let fear keep you in a box. Take the steps now, to change your life for the better.
#3 Nourish Your Soul
Do you wake up cursing the sunlight or thanking God, or the universe or whomever or whatever it is that you pray to. Start your day off right every day. I made a vow when I turned 40 that I was going to start my day by thanking God for everything that means something to me. I say 5 short sentences of thanks every morning. I even thank God for the things I don’t have so I can create an attitude of faith that eventually I will have them. I read positive books that are designed to enlighten you. I watch Super Soul Sunday. I read Science of Mind magazine and their daily affirmations. I’m constantly reading self-help books. Hey, I love to veg out and watch Bravo TV shows too, but they don’t make you a better person, so I make sure and get my reading and writing in. Successful people make it a habit to learn from other successful people.
I used to hate my small condo, but it was the only place I could afford to buy as a teacher and single mother. But now, I thank God for the fact that I have a roof over my head, and that I own this property. I’ve learned to love my space and make it a place I want to spend time in.
Start making these simple, small changes because every action you make in life, gets a reaction, so make it a right action.