Don’t give up on asking for what you want!
My daughter is sick, she has a fever, she’s throwing up and she’s is supposed to go to her dad’s for the weekend. When he texts her to confirm, she tells him she wants to stay with me because she is sick. I mean who doesn’t want to be with their mommy, or the one who has been the nurturer, when they are sick and need some TLC? His response to her when she tells him she is sick and won’t be going, is “Boo”. I don’t know maybe that is his way of saying, “Wow, Piper, that sucks that I’m not going to be able to see you.” I can’t begin to understand what goes on in his head, but once again I feel the mamma bear coming out and needing to defend my daughter.
I just wish he would treat her like the princess she is. But, I long ago gave up on that idea. It is, what it is, and trying to change him, by asking him for what I want usually would not go my way, and I’d end up in a tears from the frustration.
You can’t change anyone. but I’ll be damned if I’m going to idly stand by and let him treat my daughter with the same indifference he treated me with.
I emailed, him explaining why she won’t be with him this weekend, and then I ended it with a request. I wrote, “It would be nice if you had some kind words for Piper like, ‘I hope you feel better.’, or ‘I miss and love you.'”
He’s not a stranger to expressing his love for her, but lately, since she’s turned into a snarky teen, it seems like he’s forgotten that she still needs to hear those words and she still needs to know and feel his love for her.
I’m glad to report that the next day, he expressed his concern and love for her. She, on the other hand didn’t want to respond, because she was mad at him.
I was pleasantly surprised, and glad I asked and he listened.